If a cute girl offers to make hot chocolate in an attempt to cure both your insomnia and hers, why on earth would you ever say no?
Regardless of her intentions, you don't refuse a kind and innocent offer from a lady.
It's enough to make me think chivalry is dead. At least in the house I now live in. My new roommates mystify me like none other. And I have a hard time not taking things personally.
I thought that this is why people live together... so that when you're crawling the walls at 1 am, there's someone to live through it with... that it's at least semi-fun rather than a mess of loneliness and frustration. Right?? I don't get it.
... and I can assure you, the intention was merely platonic. I would have offered the same to my brother if we were both clearly and obviously wide awake at the same time.
People are idiots.
I agree with you that people are idiots, but intentions are always read differently from one person to the next - more so between a man and a woman - and even more so late at night.
ReplyDeleteFor night exacerbates feelings and impressions, and leaves deep marks upon the skin of the soul.
When you think your proposal was entirely platonic, odds are that the young man mightn't think so. And perhaps he's right.
Some of us are looking for - and strange enough you mentioned him - what Antoine de St-Exupéry humbly called 'human relationships' only. Contact, bonding on a level other physical, where feelings are not tainted and where emerge only values like perseverance, courage, friendship. I believe that one can love a frown of the opposite sex without wanting to bed him or her, whatever Freud might've thought. He didn't live in our time. But our intentions may be expressed more clearly when we voice them, as gestures are, frequently, equivocal.
... a case where words speak louder than actions, lest actions be misread, yes?
ReplyDeleteI hate being misread. Especially by men. Maybe that's the point I'm trying to make...
I guess so. Ambiguity is a pain in the neck (rather located more towards the bottom, but I'll mind my French).
ReplyDeleteI wouldn't mind a hot choc coming from you, but I guess it'll be hard distance-wise. Try again to make friends with your roommates. Come to think of it, they might be very good at ignoring people, not just you. Or just with nice, cute ladies proposing an indecent cup of hot choc at an indecent 1 am. Or they are lactose intolerant. Or gay. Or scared of you. Or have their own set of issues. Or not interested in you as a person. Shit happens, everywhere.
Lol right?? Don't I know it!
ReplyDeleteThank you, Rodolphe. Part of growing up, I suppose -- handling it well. Sometimes I am really unequal to the task. Especially at 1 am.
Come one, Kates. Give yourself some credit. At least you're still humane at 1 am ;)
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